by Sally Boone
(Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA)
When you first move to a new city, you may feel very excited about all the fresh sights and sounds your new city offers. The unpleasant side of moving to a new place is that you may feel very lonely for a long time. It often takes months to build up a circle of friendships after you move. Here are some tips that can help you to make new friends more quickly when you move to a new city.
After the initial excitement of your move wears off, you need to start creating a social community for yourself. Part of the key to making friends when you move to a new city is to see the same people over and over again, and making small talk with them.
To be sure you encounter the same people on a regular basis, you need to have some sort of structured activities that you repeat at least once or twice a week. This is the reason why it is important to join several groups where you can interact with the same people. You can also take a walk every day in the same neighbourhood, shop at the same store, or sit in the same cafe and talk to the other regulars.
Joining a church is often one of the first things that many people do when they move to a new city. A person with a deep sense of faith will find that joining a church offers a base of stability and comfort. Joining a church also provides people with the opportunity to meet others who share the same beliefs.
Volunteering is a great way to get involved in a new community where you don’t know anyone. Pick a cause that you are passionate about, and choose a group where you have many opportunities to interact with others. Even if you are a shy person, you will find topics that you can discuss with the people you meet while you are volunteering.
Another good way to meet new people quickly when you move to a new city is to join a support group of some kind. This can be a group that has been formed to help people with a particular disease, an addiction, or some other type of problem. By participating in the group, you can share your innermost thoughts and feelings with other people who share the same problem. You will quickly overcome your feelings of loneliness if you are in a support group where you can share your frustrations and your joys.
If exercise and fitness are important to you, then you should join a gym or some type of fitness class or sports club where you can meet people. Be sure that you choose an activity that you enjoy, or you will not go back. You will also appear much more likable to others if they see that you are enjoying yourself.
To make new friends after you move to a new city, you must do more than simply join a few clubs and organization’s You will have to attend the meetings and social gatherings on a regular basis, and you must make an effort to be outgoing and friendly. The effort to meet new people will soon pay off as you start to build a satisfying social life for yourself.